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Summers are made for Memories, Change and Growth
As a follow up to last month’s blog, this month, I wanted to continue my discussion about summer memories, growth, and change. Since writing the last blog, I have spent time in two countries and three states. Life has been busy! So, what have you been up to since we last talked? Have you had the opportunity to encountered old friends, meet new ones, visit new places, and most importantly, have you tried anything new? Have these experiences changed you in some way and helped you to grow in a certain area? If yes, I would love to hear more about your experiences.
On this end, I traveled once again to Jamaica to attend a wedding. Oh what fun! As I watched my nephew’s eyes light up as his bride entered the church (hours late), I was so happy for him and his son. He had waited patiently on God and had “found a wife, a good thing, and God’s favor”, as the bible had promised. Lucky boy! He had grown tremendously in his waiting and was better positioned to be a more godly spouse than ever before. As the wedding reception ended with the infamous “shoe game”, it occurred to me that the moral of the game was to assess how much the couple knew each other, but in essence, as each question was revealed along with their responses, both the bride and groom were also learning something new about each other. But, people and things change and so in a few months not only will these answers change, but the couple will have changed themselves. But, no need to worry, change we will all agree is constant! In fact, one can wisely say that where there is no change, there is no growth.
So, how have you grown this year or this summer: Have you learned to set boundaries in your relationships? Found a better way to manage your budget? Finally, getting to work on time? Managing your anger in a more mature way? Learning to be more patient with your children and spouse? If you can relate to any of these or other outcomes, you are changing and most importantly growing as a person.
In my family, one big area of growth is in my relationship with my children. Now that they are all grown and out of the house, it has been hard as a mom not to know where they are, what they are doing, how they are doing, and how if any I can help. Truthfully, it has been a painful process to let go and move into the position of a “coach or mentor”, not the mommy who did everything for them. This has led to many restless nights, worrisome days, and anxious moments; yet, I am constantly reminded that I provided them with the best foundation to be upstanding, law-abiding citizens and I can rest in that. Spiritually, I have taught them to pray, watched each of them dedicate their lives to Christ, and lived a Christ-honoring life in front of them. So, I feel that I can now rest in the confidence that I have done my best since I have also thought them to ask God for wisdom in all of their dealings.
But back to my change! For me, the big change was that it was no longer mommy’s job to fix their mishaps; they had to learn to turn to God to meet their needs. As a good parent, I will always continue to pray for and support my children, but my biggest change this summer and year was realizing that it was now up to them and God to decide what they do, how they do, and when. Now, my role has being to cheer them along from the sidelines! That was a big pill for this mom to swallow, but I am learning to let things go, so that each child can find his or her wings. This change has been painful, gradual, but finally so freeing.
So, I would love to hear your change-story. What changed for you this summer or year? What new memories did you make? How does this make you feel? I am listening, so please feel free to share your change story.
Here’s to change and new things for the rest of 2019!